Strap On Your Body Armour

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A while ago I wrote about peri-menopause. I knew I was experiencing some of the symptoms but at the same time wondered why they were so bad given that the last blood test I had wasn’t showing enough of a change to warrant what I was going through.

That blood test was eight months ago.  When, recently, I started having hot flushes I decided it was time to have another test. The results confirmed that my oestrogen level has plummeted and the fact that I feel like I’m on the edge of an abyss that has nothing but, chronic tiredness, manic mood swings, enlarged waist lines and puffy jowls in its fiery, sweaty depths is totally justifiable. Yay.

Look, I know that all women go through this and I need to suck it up but no one in my family is interested in listening to me bellyache so the task falls on your, the readers, shoulders.

Here’s the thing, if it were just me going through a change I could probably cope but Molly has also started exhibiting signs of fluctuating hormones. So while her hormones are on the rise mine are on the fall.

You know those scenes in the movies where someone has a bomb strapped to their chest and someone else is trying to defuse it before the clock ticks down to zero?  That’s life in our house at the moment.  Only there are two bombs, Molly and me and defusing them involves lots of yelling and door slamming.

Apart from the chemical changes causing anger and frustration there are also the emotional battles. Molly is dealing with uncertainty about the overwhelming wealth of choices, prospects, potential, and opportunities stretching before her.  I am dealing with the certainty of decreasing choices, prospects, potential, opportunities and time.

Consequently, at a time, when I want to put myself first more so than I have in the past I have to consider how Molly is feeling and help her through a difficult time. Of course that doesn’t mean I give in to her every demand. If there is something I have learned over the past few months it is that the attempts at manipulation have become far less obvious and are instead more surreptitious. I have one thing on my side. I’ve been where she is and so have some understanding of what she is going through and also an inside knowledge of the ruses used to pull one over the parents.

So for anyone who has reason to be at our house in the unforeseeable future, strap on your body armour it may help protect you against flying shrapnel but I can’t promise you anything.

 

 

 

 

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